When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things. 1 Corinthians 13:11 (NASB)
I’m told there’s a new movie coming out soon called 50 Shades of Gray that proves that women are just as addicted to pornography as men, only they do it in a different form. The movie is based on a novel by E. L. James. i couldn’t say for sure whether this is true or not because I guess I’m one of the few people left on the planet that never read the book and doesn’t intend to see the movie. I didn’t read it because I had heard enough about it to know what it was about, and I didn’t want to get sucked in. I won’t see the movie for the same reason.
I spent too many years as a young adult parked in front of a TV set watching the trials and tribulations of Luke and Laura or Susan Lucci’s Erica Kane go from lover to lover. I was a Christian at the time, yet I exposed my children to all kinds of sexuality that I never should have just because I was hooked on a good story line. When I look back, I wonder how I could have been so stupid!
I think that’s the way pornography works for women. Men were designed by God to be the aggressors. Therefore their instinct is purely visual. All they need is a few sexy images and Satan’s got them. Women are different. We were designed to be responsive. I know there are a few women who get excited by pictures. I had a friend when Wade was in college who had an apartment full of Playgirl magazine centerfolds on her walls. But I think most of us are rather repulsed by that. At least I was. Satan has to work a little harder with us.
A good story will do it. We’re drawn in. We accept things like adultery and premarital or extra-marital sex without questioning its morality or even its consequences to our own children and families.
So what is pornography anyway? As a writer I don’t shy away from sexuality. Anyone who’s read any of my writings knows that. I did worry about this particularly in Tokens of Promise because it has some extremely sensual scenes in it. One lady did call it pornography but she only read a tiny portion of it. I certainly don’t consider myself a pornographer. Webster’s says pornography is writing or pictures or production of those writings or pictures intended to arouse sexual desire. Even Webster’s knows it’s all about intent. The Bible was never afraid to tackle hard subjects like sexuality. God knows it’s an intrinsic part of who we are. Writers shouldn’t be afraid to tackle it either. We just need to be sensitive to our writing’s effect. What is our intent? To illuminate a problem and effect change or simply to arouse desire? As readers and movie goers, we should ask the same question of our hosts, and if the answer is simply to titillate, we need to close the book or get up and leave or turn the TV set off. That’s what I had to do to the soap operas years ago. I only wish I’d done it a lot sooner. Psalm 139:23-24 says, “Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me and know my anxious thoughts; And see if there be any hurtful way in me, And lead me in the everlasting way.” It’s time for Christians to put away childish things.
Taboo Tuesday Question of the Day: How has pornography affected your life, or has it?